If I may join this discussion as a white woman I would like to express some thoughts already mentioned in a few of the articles here. From a different perspective. I think the bigger issue remains that men are attracted to women! I also believe that experience and environment has something to do with our perceptions of each other.

I have primarily dated white men but have had significant relationships with black men, as friends, brothers, and in love. The man who taught me to drive was black, the friend i went fishing at the creek with was black. The artist that I painted with was black. I did not seek out to be friends with any one by color or race but by a mutual understanding, interest, bond and comfort. My friendships became those that felt safe that had a sameness to them and this transcended color.

Those who influenced my youth, my sense of place, justice,and kindness, impacted my views and trust. These would be the people I felt most attracted to. Those who were kind to me, were protective of me, and were loyal friends to me.

My hurts and experience have influenced my fears and ability to feel a sense of safety or trust. In this aspect my instinct is greater with a particular group. While I don’t exclude any one in life, i feel my hesitation to trust in certain groups of people and my willingness or comfort in embracing closeness is largely responsible for my most meaningful relationships. Although this is my person perception I think for some the very same things may be foundational for their fondness or attraction.

It is very revealing and interesting to read the articles on this subject. The insights and perceptions written are valuable in understanding. I was surprised by some, saddened by the stereotypes and superficiality in others. Not all white women are easy, passive, or looking for some muscular guy. There is always an element of attraction that sparks any relationship, but surface without substance dies quickly. White women are not all ready and willing to accept abuse, to wait on someone hand and foot, or to cater to the arrogance or demands of an ungiving man. Those women do exist and come in all colors but it is unbalanced to think that is the typcial white woman in relationship with any one. A man may be fond of what he believes of the image to be true, but realistically the image,is full of misgivings and a far cry from the expectation.

Women are complex by nature. We are survivors regardless of race. What a man perceives and feels a fondness for or attraction to is ultimately initially physical. What he persues must hold something more. The allure of a white woman may be the unknown, the obvious differences, the curosity and many of the other things mentioned already.

Black women have such a nobility and beauty. Their exterior presentations may differ from the manner of white women greatly, but there is honor in both, substance, struggle, heart and dignity. We honor ourselves, our race, culture, and men when we don’t compromise who we are, and what we are. When we hold ourselves in esteem and respect. Does that create a fondness for one or the other, maybe not initially. In the long run any image, any superficial attraction is limited.
I honestly don’t believe that black men are more fond of white women. I think there is a curosity in some cases and with others an environmental or experential reason.